In 2 levels, friendships and relationships because you cannot really pick your relatives and family. You can choose to deny them, but you are only denying yourself.

Put it in the simple first level of friendships, you meet people from all sorts of background in your stages of life. They could be a classmate, a colleague, or a neighbour. They are everywhere and you can have as many of these 'friends' as you desire.

All along, the generalised opinion of many would be; you spend time with each other and bond close friendships. Is that necessary true? Definitely not.

Why not? Because when it comes to human to human relationships, it is not something that can be represented by a mathematical equation. There is no guaranteed results and not a single thing can be definite.

You could do everything you could to gain the likes of others, you could be at the top of the world known as the 'rich and famous'. Yet, you are still not able to get relevant with a particular someone.

Let us look at the possible factors in a friendship:

- Discrimination and Judgement

Every single individual is unique in terms of their personalities, their appearance, or even their life. We are shaped with different mind-sets with our morals and values we believe in and what we perceive as right and wrong may not necessary be the same for others.

For example, you may believe that you are taking up the correct action by aborting a baby, which is actually legalised in several countries. Unfortunately to some, it is akin to murder of a human life. In other words, you may be judged and criticised even without knowing or having a chance to speak for yourself. For example, what if you had to abort the baby due to birth defects and keeping the baby would severely endanger the life of not only yourself and the baby? Do others know about this before they make the judgement? Definitely not, or rather, they do not even bother to care to find out. In this modern world, everything is about 'I', 'mine perspective' and 'I am always right'.

I believe that is adequate about judgement, so what about discrimination?

It all comes down to preference, if given a choice between taking a bus or walking an extremely long distance, many would choose the former reasoning the efficiency as compared to the latter. However, if given a scenario when you could only save one out of two people from an accident, what would you do? You know nothing about their lives and how they are able to influence and impact the society, who should you save?

That is right, you pick the young person because they have a longer time to live. We call it ageism

You pick the female instead of the male because feminism.

You pick the local instead of the foreign worker because they looked merely as cheap labour to you, which is xenophobia.

You pick the well-dressed person instead of the poor beggar because they do not have a future anyway.

Most importantly, you pick the better looking person, because you can!

Hence, this is why, despite to the world you may have everyone, but in fact they are not anybody to you. Some people say we want the people we cannot get because we yearn for them, while to others whom we already have, they came off too 'easily' and we would never cherish or treasure them. In the end, we only say to them 'I did not ask you to be here'.

To sum up the points, no matter what an individual has done for another, how much time they spend together overcoming hardships or difficulties and reaching success together. Whatever, one of them is merely going to tell the other to go away because the individual finds the other too ugly to match up to them.

- Benefits

Exactly as what it says, if you are not going to be valuable or provide any form of usage or benefits to others, why would others want you in their life? It is no wonder that some people would rather be in abused relationships than to be alone.

Love relationships, well done.

You would have thought spending years with someone else, you begin to develop feelings and much more intimate emotions for them in the journey you have gone through together. Unfortunately for you but to him or her, that thought have never occurred and it just bonded the both of you even more. The end, back to the 'friendzone'.

In reality, love does not come at first sight because that is infatuation, you are amazed by the appearance of others. So you think you love them, but what if they were to be suddenly horribly disfigured in an accident? Where is the so-called love now?

Does a pretty or handsome face mean a good personality? Even so, does a good personality means that it would complement with you? These are the theories so outrageous they would not even portray it in fairy tales. Not even the dim-witted would believe it, anything that does is probably a thing.

In that case, why do some 'objects' want to chase and fall for others just because of appearance?