Around 1st grade I became friends with this kid named Stan. He was a couple of years older than I was but he had a sister that was my age who I was also friends with. I also had a wicked crush on their oldest brother James (I was that girl who chased the poor, uninterested boys all around the playground lol.)

I lost contact with all three around middle school. Of course when Facebook happened I began getting in touch with people I'd gone to school with. It was a moderately sized K through 8th school so you were basically with the exact same group of kids through each grade. This makes for some pretty strong bonds I believe because there's a lot of us who kept in contact after moving on to high school for a little while before drifting apart. Because of this I was always really excited when I got back in touch with those people

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However....not all of these connections have been positive.

I got a friend request from Stan one day, under a different name. The messages were the typical "How's it going?", "What have you been up to?", etc. Then he started sending messages that were about my looks. They weren't obscene but they did make me a bit uncomfortable.

He started pushing to meet up. I can't explain it but I just had a really off feeling about him so I would kind of avoid making any kind of plans. He continued to be pushy about things and finally I just stopped responding to his messages. I should also mention here that when I first accepted Stan's friend request he literally went through every single one of my pictures and liked them. That should have been my first clue but I just let it go.

Then I started getting messages from friends and even some family members asking me about him. Stan was going through and basically sending everyone friend requests. By this point I'm like wtf this is weird. But things got really nuts when my cousin informed he that Stan had not only tried to friend her, he'd also sent her a message asking all sorts of questions about me such as things I liked or places I liked to go. My cousin was concerned that he was sending those kind of messages to other people who might actually tell him what he wanted to know.

I debated sending Stan a message telling him to back the fuck off but decided to just block him and changed all of my FB settings to make it as private as I possibly could. I also sent out a mass message to all of my friends and family informing them of the situation and to kindly not give out any of my personal information. I had been friends with James but ended up blocking him as well just to prevent Stan from getting access to anything.

Things were quiet for about a week. Then the friend requests from random accounts started coming in. Some didn't have pictures, some had random images. They were accompanied by messages that made it clear they were all from Stan, full of skeevy comments on my looks and how he was wanted to hook up. That's putting it mildly. Every day I had an account that needed to be blocked. I contacted FB about the situation though that didn't really offer any kind of help. It finally came to a stop when I threatened Stan with police intervention. My bf at the time threatened to disembowel Stan and feed him his intestine with a side of fava beans and a nice chianti.

The peace lasted for about year. Then I got a friend request from a girl I'd also gone to school with named Kelsey. We talked pretty frequently both online and over the phone. She wanted to us to hang out so we talked about that some but then she started bringing it up more frequently, persistently. I started to get that weird feeling again that something wasn't quite right. Then came the bombshell:

Kelsey and Stan were dating.

We'd all been in the same classes so the fact that they knew each other wasn't strange but for them to be dating? I confronted Kelsey about it and blocked her but because we'd talked on the phone they had my phone number. Of course both began calling and texting crazy things nonstop. I finally had to get my number changed.

It's been over ten years since all of this and I haven't heard from Stan once. Kelsey did try to friend me recently with a different account and a look through her FB shows she's married to another man and no evidence of Stan. I'm not taking any chances though so she's been blocked.

TL:DR - Boy I was friends with as a kid grew up to be a skeevy, obsessive Facebook creeper. Let's not meet.